As weddings shift from using standard vows, many aspiring couples now prefer to write their own vows. The main benefit is that it allows you to add your personal touch as you commit your love to your partner.
However, wedding vows are not spontaneous, neither were we taught how to write them in school. In essence, not everyone can write the perfect vows from scratch. Fortunately, we are here to help. Below are a few ideas on how to write the ideal wedding vows:
Knowing What to Say and How to Say It
Writing your wedding vows does not have to be complicated so long as you focus on the following three vital areas:
The promise
Standard vows have various promises that you can choose to include in your list. You can opt for the traditional way to love, cherish and worship your partner, in sickness and health, for richer and poorer. You can make it light by promising to cook dinner every evening or run the dishwasher every night. With personal wedding vows, there are no restrictions to what you can say or promise.
Personal touch
Writing your vows instead of using standard vows entails personalizing the moment. You can bring in a quick, short story about yourself or your lover. You can say how you’ve changed ever since you met your partner or how you knew they were special from the moment you met them. After all, invoking a personal touch is the reason why you are writing your own wedding vows in the first place.
Relatable link
Even though you are writing your “own” wedding vows, your lines should also captivate your audience. Ideally, you should bring it back to somewhat relatable to keep your audience glued. Doing so will ensure they have something to remember for years to come. For instance, if you are into celebrity culture, you can compare yourselves to iconic couples like Jay Z & Beyoncé or TV couples like Brittany and Santana.
Call in the Pros
Even though writing the perfect vows is not hard, the entire process may become overwhelming and confusing, considering the excitement surrounding the wedding.
Many couples choose to quote a love poem or read an excerpt from their favorite song or book. However, you may become confused to the extent that you don’t know what to say or how to say it. This is the point where you call in the pros to give you a helping hand.
Wedding vow experts have excellent creativity and adequate experience to handle your request. They can craft the perfect vows to wow your lover as well as your audience for a memorable wedding ceremony.
The expert will ask you to brainstorm and write down all the reasons why you love your fiancée. You can also list why you want to spend the rest of your life with your lover.
What do you admire the most about them, and what promises do you want to make? Think about how you will support your fiancée in all aspects. You’ll be able to come up with the perfect vows when reviewing these notes.
After listing everything as described above, it would be easier to craft the ideal vows. However, the vows should be in a particular layout for easy reading (the wedding expert will help you with this).
Avoid the added pressure of having to memorize your vows. Instead, handwrite them in a booklet and recite them a few times, and everything will fall in place. Doing so will ensure you maintain eye contact with your lover when reciting the vows on the wedding day.
Final Dos and Don’ts
Do not wait until the last minute
Writing your wedding vows might seem like a light task compared to other items on your wedding list. However, this does not mean you should procrastinate and wait until the last minute. As your big day approaches, you may have too much on your hands, and writing vows while under pressure is the last thing you can ask for!
Keep it brief
As much as the guests at your wedding love and adore you, they do not want to hear your whole love story. Long stories are boring, so you should consider keeping your vows short and sweet.
Solicit genuine feedback
If you are unsure about your vows, you can read them out to a trusted friend or wedding expert to hear what they have to say and what changes you can make before your big day.
